(Notes from FB Live Oct 17 2018 ~ Click to Watch)

I never thought the day would come where I would be actively learning how to detach from my goals! Wait… What?

Yesterday I had a plan to go with a couple of girlfriends on a motorcycle trip to film the fall colours. I was so excited and so prepared as I was running out of time to film. Then disaster hit and a stomach bug robbed me of my sleep, my energy and my dream.

I lay in bed all day yesterday moving through physical waves of nausea and emotional waves of disappointment. As I maneuvered the storms I was able to keep presence of mind to observe my reactions and practice some new skills.

Disappointment. What a natural but nasty wee emotion. I allowed myself to wallow in the sadness and anger of the tragedy of not being able to realize a dream I had built up in my mind. Even though it was not life threatening, it was precious and unrepeatable and devastating enough to warrant taking the time to have a mini internal temper tantrum.

Honouring my feelings allowed me to stay in reality and not zip off into some weird pretend land where negative self talk could do serious damage. “You don’t deserve to have good things happen.” Or “You are not important enough to be part of.”

As I was moving through the process of managing disappointment in a healthy manner I became aware of that what I was doing was detaching from my goal and attaching to my desire. My goals are a temporary mechanism for fulfilling my underlying desires and if I get super clear on what those are then I can maximize my ability to actualize them.

Another benefit is that I will have positioned myself to be open to this Universe showing me ways of achieving my dreams that I never would have thought of let alone thought possible.

This was a very exciting revelation for me yesterday! My underlying dream was to experience the beauty of nature and to spend quality time with girlfriends. I can ride tomorrow and I can certainly reach out to those girlfriends and immerse myself in their friendship.

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