(Notes from FB Live Aug 30 2018 ~ Click to Watch)

A long time ago when I was holding a lot of committee meetings I stumbled on the 20/60/20 rule and it was a game changer for work. 20% of the people are my cheerleaders. The ones who are team players, optimistic and positive. 20% are negative and have already decided they aren’t on board. 60% can go one way or the other. As soon as I heard this concept I began assimilating into my my psychology of how I was working with others. I began to understand that the bottom 20 were essential to the project’s success. I began to see how much time and energy I was spending with them and shifted it to the middle 60. I drew my strength, encouragement and motivation from the top 20. Suddenly I had balance in the team and was able to very quickly maximize our success.

Then I started applying it to my personal life. I began to notice that I was fixated on the bottom 20 of what I thought of myself and it was dragging me into despair over and over again. To the point I didn’t even have a top 20 of self esteem. I began with the 60 and started making changes there and next thing I knew I was able to like parts of myself and be proud of them.

I also applied it to my relationships. I realized I was spending so much of my time and effort trying to bring around the bottom 20 of my friends and ignoring the top 20 and barely spending time with the 60. I made some changes. Bottom 20 people I was polite and established good boundaries. Top 20 I made sure got specific individual attention and had a wonderful time engaging with the 60.

This rule has been an amazing measurement tool for most all areas of my life. I cook a bad meal and tell myself “can’t enjoy the top 20 without a bottom 20 once in a while.” I make a mistake “can’t celebrate the top 20 amazing decisions without a bottom 20 bad decision once in a while.” They can’t all be home runs!! I am wondering how you are in your life? Are you balanced in where you put your time, energy, effort? Smile. Life is just so interesting isn’t it?

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